It’s official! I am not a hardened criminal and I have the documents to prove it! So this is it, all my paperwork is done and will be turned into the attorney on Monday! Hopefully he will file it promptly and we will get a court date soon! I don’t know how long it will take to:
A) be notified of our court date and
B) how long of backlog there is and how soon they can get us in.

I will update as soon as I know more!

I purposefully failed to mention that Austin has been having bully problems. I was too angry to write anything about the situation because I feel as an adult it’s wrong of me to trash a 10 year old little boy on the internet. Austin and friends had gone to the park together behind my house when Austin got separated from the group. The Bully lunged at him, throwing him off his bike and punched him in the face 4 times. Austin’s eye was swollen, and his glasses and bike got bent up. Austin was very upset and did not want to tell me what happened.

I am feeling better about the situation because I feel like there is/will be some resolution to the situation.

The steps I have taken so far are:

• We called daddy in Texas and had him talk to Austin about what to do next time, as well as taking to other people in our support system. I reminded him how much we love him and I would never be angry at him for someone damaging his bike.
• I called the local police department to file a complaint; they could not find the child without an address so that was a dead end.
• I called the Principal of his school even though it happened before school was in session. He said he would talk to the boys, but he has not because he’s been in meetings.
• I enrolled both boys in TaeKwonDo to teach them confidence and self defense.
• I spoke with the counselor at school today who is aware that this is an ongoing problem.
• I informed Austin’s teacher that this child was threatening him in school yesterday.

Anyways, I should know more as time passes. It really bothers me Austin is having to go through all this, he is such a sweet little boy with so much on his plate right now, he does not need this.

BTW, Austin asked me again today if I got my court date yet, I wish I had an answer for him. On that same note, we got our first statement from the Attorney, and we have only spent a little under 20% of our retainer, and I expect that the most expensive part is already over.

Austin and Chris are back in school. I had to tell them twice to take off their backpacks, they had put them on 20 minutes before it was time to leave; are they excited do you think?!?? With the house empty, I have been bored! I can’t believe it!! So far I have washed the slipcovers, hand washed the dishes, cleaned the highchair, hand-washed a load of dishes, fed the baby, bathed the baby, all before I had my breakfast. I also re-uploaded the slideshow videos I made of the boys last year, they had been removed from inactivity; you can see them HERE.

So now what do I do with my day? It’s 11am and I have a quiet house to myself. I have to wash diapers today once Matthew wakes up, and I would like to vacuum today and maybe clean out my car. After the boys get home from school it will be a rushed evening as they have Taekwondo tonight. I am also waiting on a phone call from the doctor’s office on how they want to evaluate Christopher for some sensory issues he is having.

No need to walk the dog, she’s sleeping in the kitchen right now walking herself in her sleep…LOL

Added a timeline on the side for Austin’s adoption stolen from here. Let me know what you think!

School started on 8/17/06.

Bobby Came Home on 9/1/06.

Both clocks removed since the events have passed!

I know I look so big to you,

Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have.

But no matter how big we get,

We still have needs that are important to us.

I know that our relationship is growing and changing,

But I still need you.

I need your warmth and closeness,

Especially at the end of the day,

When we snuggle up in bed.

Please don’t get too busy for us to nurse.

I know you think I can be patient,

Or find something to take the place of a nursing;

A book, a glass of something,

But nothing can take your place when I need you.

Sometimes just cuddling with you,

Having you near me is enough.

I guess I am growing and becoming independent,

But please be there.

This bond we have is so strong and so important to me,

Please don’t break it abruptly.

Wean me gently,

Because I am your mother,

And my heart is tender.

So, Austin’s bio-mom signed the consent for adoption. Once I get my FBI background check back (in 4-6 more weeks) my attorney can file the papers and get my court date! HOPEFULLY by Christmas I will get what I always wanted from Santa, and that is my oldest boy to be my own legal child as long as everything goes smoothly.

I also spoke with Child Support Enforcement today about BM, the new worker said she will do everything in her power to get BM’s case in her last state closed out so she won’t be harassed anymore and threatened for not paying. My home state CSE worker also said that once the adoption is final they can set up a small payment plan with BM so she’s not struggling to pay back her arrears.

So, good news. Hopefully this new plan is one that works best for all parties involved.