BM did not get served Monday. We wasted $70 for the first attempts (something like 6 times over 2 days) and since she would not answer the door, the process server filed her report and closed our file. IF we were to serve her again it would cost another $70 to send someone else out. Pish! Anyways, Monday we mailed her a waiver of service and it got to her this morning. She stated she would sign and return it today, so cross your fingers that the Attorney gets it on Friday, or at least by Monday. Then we are waiting on the courts, again.
I am getting better at waiting…. I hope!
She called! BM called! She said she will stick close to home Monday so she can be re-served. She stated she was out of town and will be home Sunday… whatever the case may be, I am just hopeful we can get this all in where it needs to be in time.
Between all the stress of the adoption, the van, the new family, and all the medical stuff, I was feeling pretty smothered under the weight of all the crap I was dealing with. I decided a positive change was needed.
With the advice of some friends, I fell asleep with positive visualisation of BM being served and the hearing going off without a hitch. Even though we are down to the wire, we still have options. We can run an ad in the newspaper, or get her to sign a waiver. I have faith it will work out.
The van is at the dealership, they are seeing again if they can find the leaks. The warranty representative may not be able to come out until Monday, so I won’t get a rental until then, but I don’t have a problem with that since Bobby doesn’t work on the weekends.
I am positive things will work out with us all medically. We have access to the best doctors and best treatments and everything will get taken care of.
The new family is a blessing, it was stressful at first worrying about Bobby’s brother being back in our lives, and I still hope some day he will be; however in the meantime I am so much happier to get the opportunity to get to know his children and their mother.
I am so thankful for all the people I have in my life… all the opportunities and experiences.
I feel so much in unburdening all the “weight” off, and in doing so I have literally lost 6 lbs, and hope that this is a small sign of things to come. Today I started making a choice to cook and eat healthier as a family. I guess with the right outlook, anything can be positive.
Called BM this morning, and still nothing. I just don’t get how you can initiate an adoption and then not follow up. I am sure she was just caught off guard and freaked out, but c’mon already! If she would just answer her phone she would know what this was all about. Hell, this morning I spelled it all out in an answering machine message… just listen and CALL ME BACK.
I am so frustrated, it’s time to get this show on the road!
Like I mentioned before BM had more papers to sign. What I did not mention is they had to be served to her by a third party. Well, I guess that third party has been trying to serve her for TWO days and she is not answering the door. He watched her go in, so he knows she was there, but every attempt to serve her has failed as she is hiding from him.
So Bobby and I tried to call her today to tell her who the person is and why he is there, but she is not answering her phone or returning our messages. Time is running out, less than 5 days before the papers need to be turned into the court, and I am starting to panic. Please send prayers that this works itself out soon, before I worry myself into an early grave.
Talk about a productive day! We took the Honda in for it’s 30,000 mile service and 6 month oil change, then headed to the Attorney’s office to see what the hubbub was all about.
No court date yet. BM needs to sign more paperwork which is due on the 25th. Having a due date makes me think we will not be losing our spot on the waiting list status. We had to resign the final packet which just needed a couple changes. So please keep us in your thoughts over the next 10 days that all goes well and BM signs the new papers.
We then went to the mall so I could exchange some clothes I bought online. I found a beautiful suit for court and a really pretty sweater to wear with my skirts. They are so pretty, and I can’t wait to wear them since the first time I will wear it, will be to adopt my sweet little boy! I am so glad we got all this stuff out of the way so next week isn’t as busy.
Well, Bobby said that the appointment could go either way…. it COULD be that we have our court date and we have to serve BM with notice??
Bobby has tomorrow off to compensate for Sunday, when he flies BACK to Texas for a meeting on Monday. Hopefully we can get in to see the atty tomorrow instead of Tuesday so I am not such a wreck waiting (and so Bobby does not have to take time off, but that is minor compared to my over stressing concern! LOL).
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Tuesday we need to see the attorney, I guess our adoption paperwork got kicked back due to some technicalities…
BM is NOT going to be happy… but we are going to have to serve her, this time in person (not US personally, but we have to pay someone to serve her) AND she will have to fill out more papers in reference to her severing her parental rights. We also have some more papers to sign.
I am really hoping that we get to keep our place on the waiting list for a court date, and not have to go to the bottom of the waiting list again.
After the long weekend, I was so happy to have the older kids at school, and the big kid at work… But by 9am he was calling to invite me to lunch… LOL
Before I could do that I needed to prepare for errands and do my morning ‘chores’. So, last time Matthew was on base, Bobby was working the gates, so as soon as they finished inspecting my van and shut the door he started SCREAMING, sobbing and crying for daddy. We were halfway to his office until he was calmed down and actually IN his office looking at daddy before he believed me! I was shocked to see how aware Matthew was, I mean it was at least 3 months ago when we saw Bobby on the gates.
So, Bobby and I had a GREAT lunch at the Macaroni Grill, it was incredible! On the way back to his office, we ran into an old friend who reminded me of a baby shower for his wife we are supposed to go to THIS WEEKEND! Oh man, I am in panic mode! I have no clue what to get her, I guess they pretty much have everything they need for the baby, and I want to get something more personal than diapers. PLEASE, if anyone has some good ideas, comment to this blog or email me!!
When the mail came, there was a letter from Child Support Enforcement saying they could not locate BM. I almost sent proof (from her letter to us, to the paperwork from our attorney) when I realized they had her maiden name still, I had a giggle and then called the new worker. The old worker would not allow me to change her last name without her writing a letter of the change (which never happened). I even offered to send a copy of the newspaper announcement of their purchase of the marriage license. The new worker took my word. LOL This new worker is great, very nice.
After dinner we had Tae-kwon-do. The boys brought a friend and their mom (though I doubt they will join) so they got their patches. We will get them sewn this weekend, along with haircuts, maybe even for Little Bit…
Anyways, its now almost 2am and I am not even close to tired, but I have to be up in 4 hours so I might as well start the tossing and turning now…
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I got a call from the school today, the counselor called the mom of the boy who was bullying Austin. The counselor had the date wrong, so the mom was super defensive saying we were lying and such because he was with her all day. The mom said that her son was too small to do anything like that. The average weight of a normal 10 yr old boy is between 60-70 lbs, Austin is the smallest boy in his grade and below the 5th percentile for weight and height (50 lbs) so that is not a far stretch by any means. The counselor is going to call back with the correct dates and the police report and hopefully after talking to the witnesses to see what the mom says THIS time about her precious baby being unable to be a bully .
PARENTS: PLEASE GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND! Any child can be a bully!! Instead of refusing to think that little Johnny or Sally is capable because they are a perfect angel who can do no wrong; listen to the facts and DEAL with it!! Please talk to your kids, do not put anything past them, and deal with the problem instead of thinking your child is too good to be bad! Austin is a GOOD boy, very good, but he has had problems in the past and we worked through it because no child is immune to having behavior problems. Ok, stepping off my soap box now.
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When I was driving to the attorney’s office today I saw a man on a Honda who was trying to look cooler than what he was. He was wearing a helmet and a windbreaker that matched his motorcycle and BRIGHT white shoes (my dad calls them Honda riding boots). I giggled a bit because he was trying to look like a mean biker… Later, I saw him again in the parking lot of Safeway and it reminded me of a comment that Christopher made when he was 6.
Austin and Christopher and I were at the mall where we saw a motorcycle being given away as a prize in a drawing. Chris went up to the gas tank and read the logo, “Hon-da” he read out loud, then said to me “mom, does that Honda want to be a REAL Harley Davidson when it grows up?”
So, today at Safeway I giggle to myself and tell Matthew that when that Honda grows up, it wants to be a REAL Harley and I go on my way shopping. After shopping I was unloading my groceries and looked over and in the spot where the Honda was, and in the same spot was a Harley Davidson motorcycle! I about peed myself laughing, I guess it really DID want to grow up to be a Harley!
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We have some new baby tricks. He climbed INTO the playpen today, the pictures below were after the fact. The playpen, which was resting against the recliner had some toys in it he wanted, so he climbed onto the recliner and then lowered himself into the playpen and then threw out all the toys. Somehow it became my job to save him from the situation he got himself into. *UPDATE* I shot and added pictures of him climbing in, shown below.
Monday, August 21, 2006
Proof My Child is a Monkey, Part One and Two.
He also learned a new word. “Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh-tiiiiiiiiiiiiii” which is Matthewism for “Austin”. He was standing at the bottom of the stairs calling for Austin to come down. Maybe we yell for the boys too much… oops! He still is not saying more than a half dozen words or coppying what we say, so I will be bringing that up at his 18 month checkup. Christopher was slow to talk too and I just got papers from the school to continue speech therapy. Both were/are tongue tied, but I am not sure how much of a role that plays in it.
