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	<title>Mistakes in Motherhood &#187; Parenting</title>
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		<title>Happy 2012</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jan 2012 00:51:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[Bobby]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have had a busy 3 weeks. For any new readers, my husband works all over the world, but since March 1, 2011 he has been working in Afghanistan and Iraq. A month or so ago he got an email from his boss informing him that he had unused paid vacation and that they needed [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have had a busy 3 weeks.  For any new readers, my husband works all over the world, but since March 1, 2011 he has been working in Afghanistan and Iraq.  A month or so ago he got an email from his boss informing him that he had unused paid vacation and that they needed to be used up by the end of the year, or some of it would be lost.  We knew to bring him home we would have to pay out of pocket for airfare, and that we had a limit on how long he could stay in order to get the maximum deductions as an ex-patriot on our taxes, and with paid days off in December-January, we were able to bring him home for 3 weeks over winter break.  The kids were home from school his entire vacation, save for 1 day. </p>
<p>Because he missed Thanksgiving because he was traveling, I made him a complete turkey dinner with all the fixings.  We also had a great Christmas and got our very first live tree, and went to a tree farm to get it.  Then, for new years, my sisters and I all went to my moms house and had an incredible weekend together.  The kids did an ornament exchange and my mom made a huge, wonderful, dinner for the 22 of us.  Today, the fun was all over.  The kids went back to school.  Bobby boarded a plane back to Afghanistan (via <a href="http://www.cheekybingo.com/">Paris</a> and Dubai).  Thankfully I was so busy with driving to Seattle, and first of the month errands that reality has not yet set in.  I am sure as we transition back into our old routine, that will change and we will all struggle in our own ways, until once again we get back into routine and it will get easy again.  Until then, I will continue to hug my kids extra close, and remind them how special and loved they are.</p>
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		<title>A poem, for my God</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/12/15/a-poem-for-my-god/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Dec 2011 06:58:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[This is how I roll]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[A lot about nothing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I asked God for a daughter. And he gave me a son. And I praised Him. And I loved my boy. I asked God for a daughter. And he gave me a son. He grew in my heart, and not in my womb. And I praised Him. And I loved my boy. I asked God [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I asked God for a daughter.  And he gave me a son.<br />
And I praised Him.  And I loved my boy.</p>
<p>I asked God for a daughter.  And he gave me a son.<br />
He grew in my heart, and not in my womb.<br />
And I praised Him.  And I loved my boy.</p>
<p>I asked God for a baby.  And he made me wait.<br />
I loved on my sons.  And I praised Him.<br />
I accepted His plan, for just two sons, and he filled my womb.</p>
<p>I asked God for a daughter.  And he gave me a son.<br />
And I cried.  But I praised him.  And I loved my boy.</p>
<p>I asked God for a baby.  And he made me wait.<br />
I loved on my sons.  And I praised Him.<br />
I accepted His plan, for just three sons, and he filled my womb.</p>
<p>I asked God to give me whatever he wanted, I just wanted him/her healthy.<br />
And he gave me a daughter.  And I praised Him.<br />
He made her three times as girly.  Three times as sassy.  Three times as sweet.<br />
And I praised him.  I loved my girl.  He completed my family.</p>
<p>He filled my womb, which came as a shock.  But I praised him.<br />
And I said &#8220;PLEASE GOD, MAKE HIM A SON!&#8221;<br />
And he did.  For God does not give you more than you can handle.</p>
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		<title>What might have been</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/12/13/what-might-have-been/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Dec 2011 22:22:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Confessions]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[A conversation with a friend today took me down memory lane. I am seriously astounded at the glimpse I saw of our alternate life. If he had not been injured, Bobby would probably have made his E-7 with 14 years in. He would be on his 5th or 6th trip overseas. We probably would not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/scan0020.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/scan0020-189x300.jpg" alt="" title="scan0020" width="189" height="300" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1889" /></a>  A conversation with a friend today took me down memory lane.  I am seriously astounded at the glimpse I saw of our alternate life.  If he had not been injured, Bobby would probably have made his E-7 with 14 years in.  He would be on his 5th or 6th trip overseas.  We probably would not have had our 4th and 5th children, since the reproduction help I needed with Sophia would not have been affordable out of pocket (our old insurance covered it).  We may not have even had a 3rd!  We were struggling in our relationship and it was the fear that I could lose him that melted the ice in my heart, and if we had pulled through and still had Matthew, he would have missed Matthew&#8217;s birth by just a few weeks.  We probably would have been still struggling with debt, who knows where we would be living.  And you know, it just goes to show, HOW much we are given when we face hardships and struggles.  Seven to eight years ago was the darkest time in my life.  I was struggling with my marriage, with my role as a step-mom, with myself.  When Bobby was injured, it was a wakeup call how precious life is, how much I loved my husband, my life, my children.  I realized there was no shame in being a mother as a career and how much I truly needed to be in my kids&#8217; life, and how important it was for them to have two parents who love them, and grow up in a happy home.  </p>
<p>I hate that my husband deals with chronic pain.  I would take that burden from him in a heartbeat if I could, and it would STILL be worth every single struggle.  I once saw an interview with a young Native American teenager who said he would chose the muddy road over easy street, because only the man who struggled and built his muscles on the muddy road emerges a warrior. </p>
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		<title>That&#8217;s my mommy.  I like her.</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/11/18/thats-my-mommy-i-like-her/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Nov 2011 07:56:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Earlier this week I had a busy busy day. My new bed was delivered (which I LOVE) and the carpet my daughter ruined 6 months ago was replaced with vinyl. Sophie was SO up the rear end of the repairman it was hilarious. Any time the door opened she would chine &#8220;IT&#8217;S CHRIS!&#8221; and he [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Earlier this week I had a busy busy day.  My new bed was delivered (which I LOVE) and the carpet my daughter ruined 6 months ago was replaced with vinyl.  Sophie was SO up the rear end of the repairman it was hilarious.  Any time the door opened she would chine &#8220;IT&#8217;S CHRIS!&#8221; and he would mirror back to her &#8220;yes, it is Chris!&#8221; and she would run check in on him every 2-3 minutes.  I was in the other room with Liam and I hear Sophie talking to Chris.  She&#8217;s got that know-it-all tone going on and I just know her hand is on her hip.  She says &#8220;That is my mommy.  I like her.  She&#8217;s nice.  <em>She&#8217;s my girl.</em>&#8221;  At this point both Chris and I are cracking up.  She is such a sweet little pixie.  I like her.  She&#8217;s <em><strong>my</em></strong> girl.</p>
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		<title>Cleaning, simplifying, and organizing.</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/09/16/cleaning-simplifying-and-organizing/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Sep 2011 20:39:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[With the oldest 3 kids in school I have been struggling a bit trying to keep the princess from being bored without her entertainment. She did not care for my ideas; coloring turned her into a sobbing puddle of goo, reading to her just annoyed her, and car rides to do stuff just ended in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With the oldest 3 kids in school I have been struggling a bit trying to keep the princess from being bored without her entertainment.  She did not care for my ideas; coloring turned her into a sobbing puddle of goo, reading to her just annoyed her, and car rides to do stuff just ended in us both being frustrated.  About the only thing she enjoyed doing was taking out every toy she owned, and digging through her dresser and discarding clean clothes onto the floor mixed with dirty clothes.  Flustered, I had had enough.  I reached out to my friends on Facebook who recommended  toy rotation.  And so the planning process started.  I made a difficult decision to finally allow the 6 year old and 3 year old share a room, they had been asking for a year, but when I let them sleep in the room with the bunk beds, sleepovers were always cut short because of climbing accidents.</p>
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<p>So instead of moving the kids into the room with the bunk beds, I left the loft portion of the bed in the playroom and removed the latter, and put the bottom bed into Sophie&#8217;s room.  We got two large bags of clothes out of dressers to go to Goodwill, and packed up NINE totes of toys, each tote holding 11 gallons, which will be stored in our storage room until we rotate them in, and move other toys out.  It was hard to let go of a lot of the clothes.  In the process I also donated the last of my <a href="http://www.blueskyscrubs.com/categories/Scrubs/Scrubs-for-Women/Simple-Scrubs/">scrub sets</a>.  It was a hard decision, I always thought about going back to nursing school, or working as a nurse aide again, but it just does not make sense to store them any longer, especially when I can easily get more at places like <a href="http://www.blueskyscrubs.com/">http://www.blueskyscrubs.com/</a> so easily.</p>
<p>I am tickled at how well the two rooms look, and it will be very easy to move Liam&#8217;s crib into the play room once he is ready to leave our room.  Bedtime has not been as seamless, 6 days later we are still struggling with them falling asleep in a timely matter.  We are still dealing with fighting and tattling, but either in time I will grow immune, or they will chill it out.  Another perk, I now have a &#8220;guest room&#8221;, so as long as you don&#8217;t mind literally climbing into bed, or sleeping in a room filled with toys.</p>
<p>Next on the agenda, is going to be going through my kitchen to get rid of dishes, and appliances I no longer need.  Taking a trip to the dump, and getting my storage room back in control.</p>
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		<title>Flats Challenge: Day 8, a day late</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/05/31/flats-challenge-day-8-a-day-late/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Jun 2011 06:47:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[A lot about nothing]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I ended up throwing in the towel half way into day 8. However, I made it the whole 7 days, and I felt fine conceding. I decided to put little boy back into pockets because he had a stealth-poo and took a long nap, and when he woke up, his little bits were pretty angry. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.dirtydiaperlaundry.com/take-the-flats-and-handwashing-challenge-may-23-30"><img src="http://dirtydiaperlaundry.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/FlatsChallenge2.png" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="#FlatsChallenge" title="FlatsChallenge" width="150" height="250" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1663" /></a>I ended up throwing in the towel half way into day 8.  However, I made it the whole 7 days, and I felt fine conceding.  I decided to put little boy back into pockets because he had a stealth-poo and took a long nap, and when he woke up, his little bits were pretty angry.  I tossed my flats in and covers in the washer and I feel pretty darn proud of myself.  When I was folding laundry tonight I was able to get a better grip on how many flats, wipes and covers I ended up using.</p>
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<li>5 covers, 4 Thirsties v2, size small, $6.50 from Diaper Swappers, and 1 Fab Fitted, print, $13.25.  <strong>Total $39.25</strong>
<li>16 Target Flour Sack Towels, $1 each, 3 birdseye Flats, $1.80 each, 2 preemie prefolds, .80 each.  <strong>Total $23</strong>
<li>1 snappi $4, 15 wipes $3 (repurposed, torn blankets, and baby washcloths). Homer camp style Wash Bucket, $7.  <strong>Total $14</strong>
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<p>So for $76.25, I was able to cloth diaper my baby, with the right supplies, for life!  </p>
<p>The good:  Flats were surprisingly easy!  Folding was not as complicated or time consuming as I assumed.  We had 3 leaks in 8 days, so they are very absorbent.  I had no problem changing a diaper at 6am while half asleep with a wiggly baby.  Being a geographically single mom with 4 other kids did not complicate it.  My flats are SO forgiving, they are still beautiful white, soft, and smell like cotton.  One of my covers got a little stained, but nothing that will effect wear.  I love how trim they are, and how small they will fold into my suitcase when we travel.  Line drying was so simple, and even on an overcast cool slightly breezy day, clothesline flats and covers dried much faster than inside hung diapers.  Overnight is the perfect amount of time for indoor drying.</p>
<p>The bad:  I will not lie, hand washing was hard.  It was time consuming, tiring, and I really missed my washer and dryer at the end.  In a real life situation I would probably have a larger quantity of diapers, and covers on hand.  I would probably also try to borrow a washer a few times a week.  I also would use a better plunger, my wood handled plunger ended up flaking paint onto my diapers.  I also was not impressed on how much water it took to get my diapers clean.</p>
<p>The ugly:  My hands are pretty calloused, my shoulders hurt the first part of the week, and my nerves were shot at the end by trying to wash quickly while the baby was napping, or folding flats off the line one handed with baby in arms.  Liam was less than patient at times, and there were washes where I would get the baby calmed, run, agitate two minutes, comfort a baby again, plunge some more.</p>
<p>What I would do/do different:  Like I said, I better handle for a plunger was necessary.  My adjustable shower head that can adjust to a single jet was a lifesaver.  A wet pail where it could not pose a drowning risk was so helpful.  Hangers and clothespins to hang diapers from worked out so well.  Line drying even when chilly and overcast pays off.  A sense of humor was mandatory, as well as a healthy dose of determination.  Splashing was almost guaranteed, wearing pajamas that I was going to change out of with pants rolled up worked well.  I may have looked for a faster drying cover, I look forward to an Econobum coming in the mail, I hear they dry well.  NEVER underestimate the power of the sun, instant whitener and stain lifter!</p>
<p>The best thing about this challenge was my confidence in myself, the amazing sense of community I gained, and the information gathered that I could not help but tell everyone about!  In the forums, I repeatedly told people to try flats and come look at my blog.  In Target, I stopped a young couple who were cloth diapering their baby and struggling with the start up cost and gave them a primer on flat use.  And to my mom, who was probably ready for me to shut up already on cloth diapers in general.</p>
<p>What I am going to do next:  Because I know I have all these new flats that I enjoy using, I am going to start de-stashing.  I already got rid of quite a few older diapers.  Next going will be newborn diapers split between 2 families, and then all my girly diapers to a friend north of me.  After that?  Who knows.  Maybe I will find a family to sponsor with a primer guide as well as a half dozen flats and a cover?</p>
<p>Thank you Kim, at <a href="http://dirtydiaperlaundry.com/">Dirty Diaper Laundry</a> for taking us with you on what you described as Diaper Boot Camp. I feel like a much stronger warrior now, and I will continue to fight for the cause; for healthy bottoms, healthy budgets, and a healthy planet!  </p>
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		<title>Flats Challenge: Day 6</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/05/28/flats-challenge-day-6/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 May 2011 02:39:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Glorious sunshine, and nary a wet diaper to hang! It looks like today is the coolest day of the long weekend, and the next two weeks will be nice and toasty, so I will wash my covers tonight as to not repeat the procrastination damp cover mistake from yesterday, but wash my flats in the [...]]]></description>
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Glorious sunshine, and nary a wet diaper to hang!  It looks like today is the coolest day of the long weekend, and the next two weeks will be nice and toasty, so I will wash my covers tonight as to not repeat the procrastination damp cover mistake from yesterday, but wash my flats in the morning so they can be sunning.  We had a minor leak today, even with a doubled up diaper, but it was following a nursing marathon and a long nap.</p>
<p>The nicest thing about this challenge is the tips I have gained from the community of other bloggers participating in this experiment, just click on any of the links below and visit any of these extraordinary bloggers.  Make sure you comment and tell them how awesome they doing.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.cottonbottommama.com/2011/05/big-move-and-flats-challenge-update.html">Cotton Bottom Mama</a> hung her diapers with clothes pins on hangers and then hung her diapers in a nice neat row on her shower.  What a great tip!  No more diapers hanging from every single surface of my bathroom!!</p>
<p>Another tip I read was to beat up your diapers against furniture to soften them up!  This works so well, my diapers are no longer stiff, and the helpers were eager to lend a hand.  I have to say, I have the cutest help ever!  I was worried how well I would be able to juggle 5 kids, flats, and hand washing, especially without my husband&#8217;s help (he&#8217;s in Afghanistan), but it has been a lot easier than I imagined.  I do want to say sorry to my husband, there were a few times when we were Skyping that he would run off to go shower, and I would run off to churn diapers and he would be back and dressed, and I had left him waiting.  Sorry honey!</p>
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		<title>Flats Challenge: Day 5</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 May 2011 04:16:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today I ran into my front snag. Liam fell asleep in my arms while I was talking with a neighbor after taking Matt to the bus stop. Since he rarely does this, I figured I would ray him in his crib and get some nice baby free time. He rarely naps out of my arms, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.dirtydiaperlaundry.com/take-the-flats-and-handwashing-challenge-may-23-30"><img src="http://dirtydiaperlaundry.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/FlatsChallenge2.png" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="#FlatsChallenge" title="FlatsChallenge" width="150" height="250" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-1663" /></a>Today I ran into my front snag.  Liam fell asleep in my arms while I was talking with a neighbor after taking Matt to the bus stop.  Since he rarely does this, I figured I would ray him in his crib and get some nice baby free time.  He rarely naps out of my arms, so it was awesome when I was able to lay him down and get some chores done.  Unfortunately I forgot to change him before the trip to the bus stop.  I also forgot that I was testing a single flat in a pad fold.  I also had him in a larger cover that I normally use for night time, so it was not as snug.  When he woke up he had this first leak.  Not bad I guess considering it was probably the 40th flat.  I blame this on user error, not diaper failure.</p>
<p>Last night, it looked like we might be clearing up, so I decided not to wash diapers and to wash and hang them in the morning, so I can sun them in the afternoon and dry them in a couple hours vs. overnight, and naturally bleach them.  Mistake #2.  I KNEW the forecast wasn&#8217;t calling for sun this week.  I had one clean cover left, and he had already had a big poop earlier, I would be fine.  I washed and hung his diapers and I noticed him turning red.  I guess the poop earlier was just a warm up, and this was the main attraction.  I cleaned him, got him nice and doubled up, went to grab a cover and none was to be found!  I looked on the rack and four were hanging and I just put the 5th into my soapy bucket so I could wash it too.  So if I really was without a washer and dryer, today I think I would have run screaming to the laundromat or to a friends house.  Since this was an emergency, I decided to think of a way to rapidly dry the diaper that the average family home and the only thing I could think of was the hair dryer.  I may have been cheating, but while the baby happily chewing on his feet in a diaper sans cover, I was washing the newly pooped in diaper and had the hair dryer angled to blow on the dryest of my 4 covers.  It got done just in time too, after he nursed, Liam was exhausted and went to bed.  </p>
<p><a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Heather-15m.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Heather-15m-300x242.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: right"  alt="" title="Heather 15m" width="300" height="242" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-1705" /></a>Overall though, I still wish I had known about flats when I was a new mama.  My hubby had just joined the Army and we were struggling and living paycheck to paycheck.  I remember letting him wear his diapers an extra hour or so because I knew how expensive they were.  I remember counting change and hoping we could scrape together enough for a small bag of generics because we were a few days from payday.  Even if I had cloth diapered part time, it would have really stretched our budget.  However, in 1997, I didn&#8217;t know anything about cloth back then outside of the diapers my mother used one me.  Even back then, I would have had options outside of the rubber pants my mom used on me.  That is a picture of my mom and I in 1980.  I was 15 months old.</p>
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		<title>Cloth Diaper Primer:  An introduction to today&#8217;s modern diapers</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 22:32:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Okay, I am going to geek out on you guys here so bear with me. Six years ago, I set out on a quest to cloth diaper my kiddos after a girl in a pregnancy forum mentioned Fuzzi Bunz and I started looking into the modern cloth diaper. Fuzzi Bunz are a type of diaper [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Okay, I am going to geek out on you guys here so bear with me.  Six years ago, I set out on a quest to cloth diaper my kiddos after a girl in a pregnancy forum mentioned Fuzzi Bunz and I started looking into the modern cloth diaper.  Fuzzi Bunz are a type of diaper called a &#8220;pocket diaper&#8221;.  Rubber pants are a thing of the past and now most cloth diapers can be sorted into four categories:</p>
<ul>
<li>AIO, or All in One
<li>Pockets
<li>Covers
<li>Hybrid or All in Two
</li>
</ul>
<p>Let me go deeper into the difference.  All the diapers mentioned above are just the main part of the diaper, and what make them waterproof.  I will explain to you the difference between each one and discuss the pros, and cons.</p>
<p><strong>All in One</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/detailorgaipopen530x310.gif"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/detailorgaipopen530x310-300x175.gif" style="margin: 10px; float: right"alt="" title="detailorgaipopen530x310" width="300" height="175" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-1648" /></a>The simplest of all cloth diapers to put on the baby and to prepare, these diapers are often called dad/babysitter/daycare friendly.  This is because they truly are wash &#038; go.  These  diapers have improved in the last five years and now are easier for to get cleaner in the wash and dry faster than the older AIO choices.  Most now have an absorbent pad that either lays on top of the diaper, agitates out on the wash, or many other creative solutions.  The older style had the absorbent layers sewn in, without any way to add extra layers for long car trips, sleep, or a heavy wetter.  They also did not dry as fast, or get as clean.  Manufacturers are listening and have come up with some wonderful creative solutions to solve the problems the older all-in-one diapers had.  At $18-27 per diaper, AIOs tend to be the most expensive cloth solution.</p>
<p><strong>Pockets</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/fuzzi-bunz1.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/fuzzi-bunz1-300x210.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="" title="fuzzi-bunz1" width="300" height="210" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-1652" /></a>Also dad/babysitter/grandparent friendly are pocket diapers.  That is because with a little more prep work than the AIO, the diaper can simply be snapped or hooked on with aplix or touchtape (think velcro-like).  These diapers are what they sound like, a pocket.  The layer closest to the baby is usually made up of suedecloth, fleece, or other stay dry material, like the outer layer is made of polyurethane laminate (PUL).  The difference between a AIO and pocket, is that the pocket diaper alone has no absorbent properties.  The second step to these diapers is then to stuff them with an insert, or a long, thin pad that pulls the moisture away from the baby and holds it until the baby is changed.  Some of these inserts are made of microterry, hemp, cotton, or other similar material.  Pocket diapers usually include some sort of insert, but many moms will chose to buy more to either add absorbancy, or upgrade the quality of washability/antimicrobial properties.  The disadvantage of this diaper is that the opposite of stuffing, is unstuffing; the peed/pooped on insert must (usually) be removed from the diaper before they are washed.  Some diapers have openings on both sides of the diaper, allowing the insert to agitate out in the wash.  Depending on the quality of diaper, and if you chose to upgrade inserts, pocket diapers can run between $10-24.</p>
<p><strong>Covers</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/thirsties-cover-all.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/thirsties-cover-all-300x300.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="" title="thirsties-cover-all" width="300" height="300" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-1653" /></a>Covers are the most economical and most versatile diaper of the three, however, it also has steepest learning curve of the three.  Covers can be made of PUL, wool, or fleece.  They can either enclose with snaps, hook &#038; loop, or pull on.  However, they cannot be used alone.  The diaper must have something underneath it to catch the mess, these can include fitteds, which are made of bamboo, cotton, hemp, and snap or hook and loop onto the baby, with the cover then placed over the top.  Another option is to use a prefold diaper, either hooked together  with pins, or a Snappi (T shaped stretchy object, with small hooks that grip to the diaper and hold it closed), or folded and laid flat into the cover.  The cheapest option is to use flats, or a large single layer of material, folded in various styles to improve absorbancy, and like the prefold, then laid into a cover, or closed with pins or a Snappi.  The other advantage to a cover, is that they can be used for multiple changes, as long as the diaper is changed and the cover is not soiled.  Some can be wiped dry, or like wool, can be worn many times before washing.  If you use wool or fleece, the other advantage is breathability.</p>
<ul>
<li>Covers or wraps are usually made of PUL are the most common of the types of covers, the easiest to find commercially, and can be wiped out with a cloth wipe and re-used, unless soiled.  PUL covers usually run around $10-18.<br />
<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/fleece.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/fleece.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: right" alt="" title="fleece" width="300" height="273" class="alignright size-full wp-image-1654" /></a>
<li>Fleece either comes with pull on options, or fasten on like PUL covers.  They can also be sewn as pants, shorts, or skirts.  Like PUL covers, there is no need to wash these after a single use, they can be hung to dry an used until the end of the day, until soiled, or until stinky.  Fleece also breathes better than PUL, and if you can sew can be made for the cost of materials.  However, very few commercial manufacturers make fleece covers, so to get fleece your best option is etsy, or Hyenacart.  Prices run from around $7-18.<br />
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<li>Wool covers are probably the most expensive of the three options to buy, but if you want to avoid man made products, wool is the very best choice.  Like fleece, wool can come in covers that pull on, or wraps that button, and can come in pants, shorts, covers, or skirts.  If you can knit, crochet, or know how to upcycle sweaters, wool can be inexpensive, however commercially made wool diapers can run from $30-90, and SAHM made can run from $10-50+.  Wool also needs to be prepped once every 1-2 weeks by soaking in a solution of lanolin, baby shampoo, and water, and then laid flat to air dry.  Wool must be hand washed, but with its antimicrobial properties does not need to be washed often and does not immediately get stinky.
</ul>
</li>
<p><strong>Hybrid or All in Two</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/shop_category_cloth-refills.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/shop_category_cloth-refills.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="" title="shop_category_cloth-refills" width="120" height="140" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1649" /></a>Similar to PUL wraps, hybrids are simply put a cloth/disposable option.  Instead of putting a cloth diaper/insert into the hybrid (or just occasionally) hybrids can house a disposable option.  A eco friendly soaker, that will either break down in a landfill, compost, or flush (depending on the manufacturer&#8217;s instructions) is placed into the cover, and when it is wet or soiled it is disposed of and a new disposable insert is put in.  Some parents prefer this option when traveling, or when at daycare, and then use prefolds or inserts in them when not on the go.  The advantage of this type of system is you are not carrying waste with you when you travel, the disadvantage is that even after the initial investment, the cost can keep accumulating.  The cost is around $14-18 for the cover only, and disposable inserts run between $5-10 for 20.</p>
<p>Up front, diapers may seem like a big investment, but they will pay for themselves before the baby is born, even when you use the most expensive diapers.  According to <a href="http://www.diaperdecisions.com/pages/cost_of_cloth_diapers.php">Diaper Decisions</a> the cost of cloth is between 6 and 23 cents per diaper change, including the cost of washing.  Where the cost of disposables is about 36 cents per diaper for the most common brand.  That doesn&#8217;t even count the extra washes of clothing from blowouts.  30 to 13 cents may not seem like a lot, until you figure that if your child potty trains at 2 1/2, you will have changed 7200.  At a minimum, you are saving between $1,000 to $2,200, now imagine how much more you would save if you re-used those same diapers on another child, or sold them when you were done to recoup between 50-75% of your original purchase price.</p>
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		<title>In the last 3 weeks</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 May 2011 18:25:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have been so very busy. On May 7th, the day before Mother&#8217;s Day, I declared I was going to proclaim today as my mother&#8217;s day. My oldest son presented me with a card he bought and he and all his siblings filled out. He traced Sophie and Liam&#8217;s hand on it. He also had [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have been so very busy.  On May 7th, the day before Mother&#8217;s Day, I declared I was going to proclaim today as my mother&#8217;s day.  My oldest son presented me with a card he bought and he and all his siblings filled out.  He traced Sophie and Liam&#8217;s hand on it.  He also had gone to three different different store looking for a specific candy I like without luck, and settled on three of my favorite candy bars.  Our sweet neighbor gave him a pretty gift box.  Matthew planted me a plant in a flower pot he decorated, and made me a card.  My husband told me if I didn&#8217;t go buy myself a Keurig, he would buy one for me, spend a lot more, and have to mail it to me.</p>
<p>I was also feeling sentimental, so I sent Austin&#8217;s birth mom a text message thanking her for allowing me to be his mommy.  She called me right back and we talked for about 30 minutes.  It was nice to hear that she had no regrets, I have always worried she consented to the adoption out of desperation, and not because she truly wanted the best for him.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_0577.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_0577-300x200.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="" title="IMG_0577" width="300" height="200" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-1638" /></a>On Sunday, Austin turned 15.  This is why I did Mother&#8217;s Day early.  I knew he would make a fuss about it, and I didn&#8217;t want anything to distract him from his birthday.  The little stinker still did, he made me breakfast in bed, and made eggs and bacon for the little ones.  For his birthday dinner, he wanted me to make him BBQ Ribs on the grill.  I also made corn bread and green beans.  It was delicious.  He played with his friends most of the day, he literally came home when the street lights came on.  It was glorious.  Our gift was delivered on Monday, a trampoline!  The &#8220;t&#8221; was partially obscured on the package, so now the kids call it &#8220;the rampoline&#8221;.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7461.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7461-300x200.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: right"alt="" title="IMG_7461" width="300" height="200" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-1639" /></a>For three days Austin and I built the rampoline together.  Christopher helped keep the little three busy.  I may or may not have taught Austin some new words as we stretched springs, and pulled safety nets tight.  On the first day, I took a break for dinner, and just when I was about to put the last 5 of 8 safety net poles up, I asked Austin &#8220;do you smell something chemically??&#8221;  He looked downstairs, and I looked in my bathroom, and I do believe my head exploded.  <a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7468.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7468-300x200.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" alt="" title="IMG_7468" width="300" height="200" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-1640" /></a>  That is a full bottle of deep purple nail polish, and some bare minerals face powder.  I scrubbed on that thing for probably 6 hours (I was up until 3am) and I managed to lighten it to a lilac color, but it didn&#8217;t come out.  I will need to replace the carpet in my bathroom.  Right now it is half vinyl, half carpet, and I am hoping our landlord will let us rip out all the flooring in the bathroom and replace it with coordinating vinyl.<a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7497.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMG_7497-300x200.jpg" alt="" title="IMG_7497" width="300" height="200" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1641" /></a><br />
Liam is growing so fast, too fast.  His new name is Mr. Grabbyhands.  He has learned how to play with the toys on his bouncer to activate music.  He has also learned how to make mama yelp in pain by grabbing onto a huge handful of hair and yanking really hard.  He also can roll from his belly to his back, and most recently his back to his belly.</p>
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		<title>Bad mama!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 01 May 2011 09:08:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today has been the first real &#8220;bad mommy day&#8221; since the colossal mind melt earlier this month. Okay, so it is 12:30 am, and technically now May, so all that was last month, but we will go with my husband&#8217;s rule&#8230;. &#8220;time does not change until after I go to sleep&#8221;. So in my mind, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today has been the first real &#8220;bad mommy day&#8221; since the colossal mind melt earlier this month.  Okay, so it is 12:30 am, and technically now May, so all that was <em>last month</em>, but we will go with my husband&#8217;s rule&#8230;. &#8220;time does not change until after I go to sleep&#8221;.  So in my mind, it is still the last day of April.</p>
<p>So earlier today (or call it yesterday if you want to keep it real) my little three decided that if they all behaved equally naughty, mom would allow it with retribution, because of safety in numbers, right?  *insert melting brain here*</p>
<p>It felt like a country western song.  Mom wanted to sleep, the phone was ringing, the baby was whining for breast milk, the 6 year old was wanting to tattle, and the 2 year old wanted a &#8220;poopy prize&#8221;.  I thought everything was settled back into place, and I was going to try to get a few more minutes of sleep, when the baby boy decided he was fat, full, and flippin&#8217; jubilant!  There goes my lazy Saturday.</p>
<p>I should have known it was going to be one of those days, everyone was crying and fighting.  It took me a full hour to get a sip of my then cold coffee.  By lunchtime I was DONE.  I put the sleeping baby, and the 2 year old down for naps.  The 6 year old was soon sent to nap too after he demonstrated his own fatigue.  However, no one napped!  All three were exhausted, but no one napped.  By around 3pm, I was in tears.</p>
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Of course, as soon as I had sufficiently filled my bladder with iced coffee, and was about ready to start dinner, not only did the baby, but also the 2 year old fell asleep.  <a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMAG0282.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/IMAG0282-179x300.jpg" alt="" title="IMAG0282" width="179" height="300" style="margin: 10px; float: right" size-medium wp-image-1629" /></a>Thankfully the 14 year old walked in from playing to get a drink, and I asked him to hold the (now crying) baby so I could make <a href="http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Fra-Diavolo-Sauce-With-Pasta/Detail.aspx">Fra Diavolo Sauce </a>With Farfalle Pasta, and broccoli.  I changed it up a bit, I used fresh tomatoes and added some white wine.  I also used only shrimp (doubled), cooked it longer, and served over farfalle (bow tie pasta) instead of linguini.  I thought it might be too spicy, so I made some Cabernet Marinara with Herbs for the little ones, but offered them both.  I think they favored the spicy shrimp sauce.  I had to giggle a bit because they started fighting over who could have the last of the broccoli, they all decided they had not had enough, and Austin rushed in to make sure everyone got two more pieces.</p>
<p>We made a fresh batch of chocolate chip cookies, and at them hot, with cold glasses of milk.  We were all sleepy, and I decided after everyone was in bed, that I would slip into a hot bath and then go to bed early myself&#8230;.. but first let me just fix this spam problem real quick.  <em>Real quick.</em>  Famous last words.</p>
<p>At 10:19 PM, my darling husband gets on Skype.  I tell him &#8220;Don&#8217;t laugh, but I have such a headache.  And it is all from reading confusing stuff.&#8221;  He reassures me he is not laughing.  &#8220;Owie, hurty head.  .htaccess is so confusing.&#8221;  He tells me he doesn&#8217;t know what .htaccess is (I didn&#8217;t either until today.  I explain what it is, what it does, and what I am using it for.  I will not quote what I said because it consists of several F bombs, and other colorful expletives&#8230; and I would like to remain classy.</p>
<p>I tell him &#8220;Half my face is limp.  I must have stroked out somewhere between .htaccess ssh and ftp&#8221;.  My darling husband says &#8220;I want to see&#8221;, and starts a video conference.  *sigh*  At 10:44, about the time I told him my brain was made of pudding, and drool was dripping out of my half-limp stroked out face, the butt tells me &#8220;I have worse problems btw.  I can not find my hair brush.&#8221;</p>
<p>While his hair WAS quite poofy, by this time I was ready to hang myself by my shoe laces.  I had no less than 15 tutorials open, terminal, my ftp, a glass of wine and my sanity was long gone.  Four minutes later, he proclaims all is right in the world, he has found his hair brush.  Well lah dee freakin&#8217; dah!  He then asked me if that was my soul he saw leaking out of my eyes.  Well yes it is.</p>
<p>At 11:36, he tells me he has to go to work.  And I tell him I have to bash my skull in with a baseball bat.  A little after 12:10am, I figure out the problem.  The file I was looking for could EASILY be created by opening a simple word processor, uploading it to my ftp (server), renaming it, and then editing it with the script I wanted, and voila, spammer would be 404ed.  I have no idea if my 2-3 hours worked, but I guess I will find out soon enough when my spam folders keep filling up.  AHHHH, what a nightmare!</p>
<p>So now that it is 2am, I can finally climb into bed, and in 4 hours I can start this all over again.  Sleep deprived and crabby.  As soon as I finish knitting this last row <em>real quick.</em></p>
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		<title>Reflection</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Apr 2011 08:31:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tonight I broke down on the telephone with my husband. Liam squeaked though the baby monitor and I placed him on hold so I could put the monitor up to my ear and listen. I teased him for calling me a paranoid mom when he was driving us home from the hospital and at a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tonight I broke down on the telephone with my husband.  Liam squeaked though the baby monitor and I placed him on hold so I could put the monitor up to my ear and listen.  I teased him for calling me a paranoid mom when he was driving us home from the hospital and at a red light I unbuckled and climbed over the seat to make sure my tiny little boy was not swallowed up by his giant car seat and that he was doing okay since he suddenly stopped crying.  I remember him jokingly telling me I was acting like he was my first and not my fifth, and I remember explaining that I knew it wasn&#8217;t rational, but this perfect little soul *scared* me.</p>
<p>I think as parents we all have irrational fears about our children.  With my first baby I remember him sleeping past his normal 3am feeding time and waking up at 4am with engorged breasts and sobbing that my baby must have passed in his sleep.  Rationally I knew he would eventually sleep through the night, irrationally I just knew SIDS must have claimed him.  My husband was in boot camp and when he called the Sunday after that instant I burst into tears when I told him our boy was sleeping through the night.  He also probably got an emotional letter in the mail as well.  </p>
<p>Then my oldest son came into our life and I was always scared his birth mom was going to come steal him away.  I knew her better than that, and I trusted her, but I was always so scared that I would pick him up from school and they would explain to me that he had already been picked up by the non-custodial parent.</p>
<p>Then my third baby came along, and I found something else to be irrational about.  I wish I could remember, but he made it out of infancy unscathed.  Our fourth baby, our first and only girl was born, and she scared me so bad that I would not allow my husband to get a vasectomy until she made it safely to her second birthday, ergo the reason we got our fifth and final child.  </p>
<p>Today I was researching pediatric pulmonologists, allergists, and pediatric neurologists.  EEGs, seizures, and breath holding spells (BHS).  Logically, I know this was likely an isolated incident.  Irrationally I have myself convinced I need to have him looked over by a room full od specialists.  I think of unnecessary poking and prodding, tests, and procedures and I just cannot make myself put my little boy through this for something that happened one time.</p>
<p>When I heard my husband&#8217;s voice tonight, I realized I was still wearing my brave mask.  I was falling apart and not allowing anyone to see it.  I have not taken time to allow myself to process the fear; to deal with the feelings, and to let myself admit how scared I was.  I can still close my eyes and see the events of Friday night so clearly in my mind.  The moment where I realized something was wrong.  I wonder if I was as calm when I called the emergency dispatcher as I remember myself sounding.  When I remember back to that night, I am on the outside, looking in.  I cannot remember a single moment where I was ever that scared before.  </p>
<p>I remember moments when my husband was in Iraq, and I heard about a casualty from his unit on the news.  The fear I felt when he explained to me a building he was next to exploded and shrapnel was hitting his vehicle and it sounded like hail.  I remember when helicopters I thought he was on went down, and then I did not hear from him for 20 days.  I still cry at movies where they talk about the war, military casualties, or when bagpipes play &#8220;Taps&#8221;.  But if I have to put this in perspective, the fear I felt that night is 100x worse.  I didn&#8217;t let myself feel it though.  Now that he is over the hurdle, and all he has is a lingering cough as he continues to work the crud out of my lungs, I find myself going back to that moment, and I find myself wanting to fall apart.</p>
<p>So tonight when Bobby called and asked how the kids were and then asked how I was, I started crying.  I am a mess.  And I feel SO guilty for feeling this way while so many people have dealt with so much worse.  My heart goes out to all the parents who have had to face the loss of a child, or a spouse.  For those who have children with chronic illnesses or disabilities.  For anyone who has had to hear that they, or a loved one has a terminal illness.  So tonight, when I allow myself to cry, and to allow myself to process the events of this last week, I will be thinking of everyone else who has also had to put on a brave face while they were falling apart inside.</p>
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		<title>Bad tooth fairy</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Apr 2011 16:40:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Writing this while watching Calliou with a puny toddler, her 104 fever dropped down to 100, and her arm/leg spasms calmed by around 3AM last night with the help of Ibuprofin. She&#8217;s still got a nasty little cough. I was able to fall asleep at 4. Around 6AM she woke up screaming again and asked [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/sumnerrain/5595773692/" title="IMG_0934 by sumnerrain, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5104/5595773692_745db38f4b_m.jpg" style="margin: 10px; float: left" width="240" height="160" alt="IMG_0934"></a> Writing this while watching Calliou with a puny toddler, her 104 fever dropped down to 100, and her arm/leg spasms calmed by around 3AM last night with the help of Ibuprofin.  She&#8217;s still got a nasty little cough.  I was able to fall asleep at 4.  Around 6AM she woke up screaming again and asked to sleep in my bed, which is unusual for her.  She has always loved her own bed, even as a baby.  At 7:30 I awake to the sound of crying again, but this time from my 6 year old.  It took me a moment to register what he was saying, but when he got his words out, my heart sank; I had forgotten to retrieve the tooth he lost and replace it with a dollar.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/sumnerrain/5595773910/" title="IMG_0935 by sumnerrain, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5270/5595773910_9cfc2d773d.jpg"  style="margin: 10px; float: right"  width="333" height="500" alt="IMG_0935"></a></p>
<p>Through his tears he created fantastic stories of what could have happened.  &#8220;Maybe she forgot her cat away, and the cat scared her?&#8221;  &#8220;Maybe she is sick?&#8221; I offered.  That was rejected.  Then as if he was not sufficiently traumatized, wailing part two ensues.  I guess he was playing with the tooth on the floor and it fell down the vent.  Now he was facing another possibility.. not only did the tooth fairy <em>forget</em> him, but now she was <em>never going to come!</em>  He decided that maybe if he wrote a not and put it under his pillow, he could get back into her good graces.  The note read &#8220;I m srrye, I lost my tooth&#8221;.  Thankfully his brother helped him dig it out.  However I still had to figure out what to do.  To buy some time to think up a <strike>convincing lie</strike> decent plan, I sent him off to the shower.  Since he has a bunk bed, I put a dollar under a pillow in his top bunk.  Silly mama, how dare I assume he didn&#8217;t overturn every pillow.  He saw through my deception immediately.</p>
<p>We settled on a story that maybe the tooth fairy was just running late, his brother convinced him that maybe a lot of children in china has lost their teeth.  After all that, the little turkey wanted me to put his crisp new dollar I picked out just for him, into his checking account.  Love that boy!</p>
<p>Next time he loses a tooth, I am insisting he hangs his sister&#8217;s &#8220;Welcome Tooth Fairy&#8221; pillow on his door knob, as a reminder for her not to fly on by.</p>
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		<title>Ultimate Blog Party 2011</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Apr 2011 10:13:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>SumnerRain</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I wasn&#8217;t planning on joining the UBP 11, but it is 2:45am and I am up with a sick 2 year old, so I figured this sure beats watching Sesame Street on Sprout with her, but still allows me to cuddle with her. So if you found me on UBP11, let me introduce myself. I [...]]]></description>
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<p>I wasn&#8217;t planning on joining the UBP 11, but it is 2:45am and I am up with a sick 2 year old, so I figured this sure beats watching Sesame Street on Sprout with her, but still allows me to cuddle with her.</p>
<p>So if you found me on UBP11, let me introduce myself.</p>
<p>I am a Heather, a 32 year old full time Domestic Engineer.  Obviously my shift does not end at 5pm, sometimes I get lucky and I get to go on break from 9pm-7am.  If I am even luckier, it is uninterrupted and insomnia stays away.</p>
<ul>
<strong>Ten Facts about me/us</strong>	</p>
<li>I have five kids, 4 boys, 1 girl.
<li>The boys are 14, 13, 6, and 3 months; the little girl is 2 1/2.
<li>I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years.
<li>We married when we were just teenagers.
<li>I was an Army wife for 8 years and lived at two different installations.
<li>My hubby is now a PMC (Private Military Contractor) working in Afghanistan.
<li>I have spent 3 years of my life being a geographically-separated parent, and I just started on the 4th year.  Not single or solo parent, as hubby is very involved, but you can only do so much when you are 6,000 miles apart.
<li>Despite having 5 kids, I am an infertility survivor.  I adopted my oldest son through a stepparent adoption almost five years ago.  My 2nd oldest was conceived easily.  My 3rd child took 6 years to conceive after many failed months with a specialist and infertility drugs.  My 4th child took 2 years to conceive and I needed fertility medications combined with an IUI.  My 5th child was quite the surprise!
<li>I try to be as natural of a parent as I can be.  I believe in extended breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing, and natural childbirth.
<li>Despite believing in Natural Childbirth, I have only achieved it once, and that is when I had my 4th child at home, in the water.
</li>
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<p>My blog title, Mistakes in Motherhood, stems from my belief that we are all flawed, and parents are not immune.  As a mom I know I have made many mistakes, said things I regret, done things that make me cringe, but in the end they are all learning experiences.  I look forward to meeting new moms (and dads) so we can share and learn from each other.</p>
<p>I just started a Facebook page, so be sure to follow me, but be patient as I learn what the heck I am doing!  <img src='http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>Today we said &#8220;See you soon&#8221;.</title>
		<link>http://www.sumnerrain.com/2011/02/28/today-we-said-see-you-soon/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2011 05:24:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[At 5 am this morning, Bobby and I said our goodbyes, but instead of goodbye, I told him &#8220;see you soon&#8221;. It didn&#8217;t hit me until I was 20 miles away, and I started thinking about how much it hurt to be away from 1/6th of my heart&#8230;. and if I am missing him this [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>At 5 am this morning, Bobby and I said our goodbyes, but instead of goodbye, I told him &#8220;see you soon&#8221;.  It didn&#8217;t hit me until I was 20 miles away, and I started thinking about how much it hurt to be away from 1/6th of my heart&#8230;. and if I am missing him this much, he must really be hurting, because he&#8217;s away from all of us.  He called from Dulles twice today before his Dubai flight to see how I was coping with 5 kids and 4 hours of sleep.  He was making sure I wasn&#8217;t burning out already, but I am more worried about him, than me, I have distractions.  I have a baby to care for around the clock.  I have doctors appointments, teacher conferences, homework to help with, meals to cook, a house to take care of.  I don&#8217;t have time to burn out.</p>
<p>Quickies:</p>
<p>Liam is 2 months old today, he had a well baby exam and was 13 lbs.  3 oz shy of a 6 pound weight gain.  Over 6 pounds if you count his lowest weight, he&#8217;s also gained 3 inches.  Pretty awesome if you figure he&#8217;s gained 3 inches in 2 months and the average is 2 inches.  The average weight gain is 5-7oz a week and he averages 11.6 a week.</p>
<p>Dude&#8211; I&#8217;m never getting another Dell.  Christopher&#8217;s charger for his Alienware broke.  4 months of light use, we are talking probably 20 times of unplugging/plugging.  It is a BAD design, think of a thin copper wire, like maybe the size of a .7mm pencil lead, housed inside a plug as big around as a pencil with the eraser pulled out.  I was told that they would not honor my warranty because if it broke, it was &#8220;abuse&#8221;.  BS!  Got an aftermarket charger on eBay, no way is Dell getting $80 from me for a new cord.  </p>
<p>Dyson, ROCKS.  I love them!  Their customer service is top notch.  I called to order a new cover for brush, a thin piece melted or broke off.  They are sending an entire brush mount, a $110 retail part, for free, on a 1 1/2 yr old vacuum.  No questions asked.  So now my raves for customer service are Apple, Comcast, Dyson, Verizon, Automated Petcare Products (Litter Robot), and of course USAA.</p>
<p>Austin was holding Liam last week and said &#8220;I LOVE it when his face turns colors, it is <em>so</em> red&#8221;.  I said &#8220;yes honey, that is because he&#8217;s pooping&#8221;.  His eyes got big, his face got red and he said &#8220;oh god no!!&#8221; and passes him back to me.  Funny boy!</p>
<p><a href="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/MustacheMatt.jpg"><img src="http://www.sumnerrain.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/MustacheMatt-179x300.jpg" alt="" title="MustacheMatt" width="179" height="300" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-1505" /></a><br />
Sophia is totally potty trained, and we ventured out into public today without any accidents.  Still no poop success, and we have not braved overnight yet.</p>
<p>Matthew got this &#8216;stache from a birthday party yesterday, I had to tell him to take it off to go to bed, he wanted to keep it on.  I told him he looks like a young Burt Reynolds, but he didn&#8217;t get the reference, so I called him Baby Earl from the TV show<u>My Name is Earl</u>.  All day I was saying &#8220;my name is Matt&#8221;.</p>
<p>Christopher has been an absolute joy this week.  He&#8217;s finally been allowed to get a Facebook page and has been absolutely superb at getting his chores done without being told.</p>
<p>I started writing this post 7 hours ago.  I kept getting interrupted.  </p>
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